Comments on: The 12 Steps http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/ navigating the spaces between in and out Mon, 09 Nov 2009 06:00:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: GG http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-102 Wed, 30 Jan 2008 21:31:55 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-102 On a lighter note, tag you're it! Check out the meme On a lighter note, tag you’re it! Check out the meme

]]> by: darkdaughta http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-101 Tue, 29 Jan 2008 17:11:29 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-101 Hi, I forgot to ask if it was okay to link to your blog. I'm not sure where your boundaries lie. It would be as an anonymous fellow blogger whose name is not necessary information...just to be clear. I'm remembering when most of this made real sense for me. Some of it still does. Only the other day I was writing about the anti-aging effects of cunt juice. :) I think that lesbian community, like any other community of interlocking social circles, has its ups and down, its bright spots and its difficult areas. I wish that someone would have explained that it ain't all roses and gaydar when I came out as a young dyke, wish they would have explained that sometimes terrible things happen even inside lesbian community. I think that lesbian community would have lasted as long as my love affair with myself as an intelligent, politicized, social, sexual being. All this to say... I'm happy for you. If you should start noticing "things" don't let it derail your choice to come out, but don't for one second believe that coming out is completely predicated on keeping the secrets and letting sleeping dogs lie. sigh... Hi,
I forgot to ask if it was okay to link to your blog. I’m not sure where your boundaries lie. It would be as an anonymous fellow blogger whose name is not necessary information…just to be clear.

I’m remembering when most of this made real sense for me. Some of it still does. Only the other day I was writing about the anti-aging effects of cunt juice. :)

I think that lesbian community, like any other community of interlocking social circles, has its ups and down, its bright spots and its difficult areas.

I wish that someone would have explained that it ain’t all roses and gaydar when I came out as a young dyke, wish they would have explained that sometimes terrible things happen even inside lesbian community.

I think that lesbian community would have lasted as long as my love affair with myself as an intelligent, politicized, social, sexual being.

All this to say…
I’m happy for you. If you should start noticing “things” don’t let it derail your choice to come out, but don’t for one second believe that coming out is completely predicated on keeping the secrets and letting sleeping dogs lie.

sigh…

]]> by: Old Crone http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-100 Tue, 29 Jan 2008 05:31:37 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-100 I just wandered in and found your blog through someone else's blog, and oh my....reading that was too much. Since I am just now, in my 40's starting to figure this out, some of those were too much, especially the music since college...check! I just wandered in and found your blog through someone else’s blog, and oh my….reading that was too much. Since I am just now, in my 40’s starting to figure this out, some of those were too much, especially the music since college…check!

]]> by: Ninotchka http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-99 Mon, 28 Jan 2008 23:25:37 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-99 That was a fun read. he he That was a fun read. he he

]]> by: Anna http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-98 Mon, 28 Jan 2008 19:41:22 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-98 Upon hearing that I had been listening to Melissa Etheridge, Indigo Girls, Ani Difranco and Tori Amos since college, T looked at me in disbelief and said in a most incredulous voice, “And you didn’t know you were gay?”! Straight chick here who just likes good music! Upon hearing that I had been listening to Melissa Etheridge, Indigo Girls, Ani Difranco and Tori Amos since college, T looked at me in disbelief and said in a most incredulous voice, “And you didn’t know you were gay?”!

Straight chick here who just likes good music!

]]> by: Athena http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-97 Sat, 26 Jan 2008 19:07:19 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-97 Those are hilarious!!! I can't wait to read them to A. And you're right, to most people, femme = straight. I have a question, though -- do/did you get hit on by guys on a regular basis? Because I never, EVER do/did, with the exception of the occasional street drunk. Which is weird, because I consider myself to be femme, even though I've always had very short hair (not quite boy-short, but close enough that the occasional elderly female patient will mistake me for a guy, LOL). I never understood why guys so emphatically NEVER chose me... until recently... :) Thanks for posting those -- I love them!!! Those are hilarious!!! I can’t wait to read them to A.

And you’re right, to most people, femme = straight. I have a question, though — do/did you get hit on by guys on a regular basis? Because I never, EVER do/did, with the exception of the occasional street drunk. Which is weird, because I consider myself to be femme, even though I’ve always had very short hair (not quite boy-short, but close enough that the occasional elderly female patient will mistake me for a guy, LOL). I never understood why guys so emphatically NEVER chose me… until recently… :)

Thanks for posting those — I love them!!!

]]> by: mb http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-96 Sat, 26 Jan 2008 05:16:25 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-96 wait! my husband thinks tori amos is unbelievably talented and we both put ani up there in songwriting hero status. does that mean we are both lesbians? shit. :-) wait! my husband thinks tori amos is unbelievably talented and we both put ani up there in songwriting hero status.

does that mean we are both lesbians? shit.

:-)

]]> by: green-eyed girl http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-95 Fri, 25 Jan 2008 13:52:33 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-95 I laughed a couple of times while reading this, I love it. Nobody thinks I am a lesbian either but being a femme makes me more difficult to read. Yeah, the idea of ever having sex with a man again acutally does make me cringe. Men are wonderful, I just don't want them on top of me. giggle I laughed a couple of times while reading this, I love it. Nobody thinks I am a lesbian either but being a femme makes me more difficult to read.
Yeah, the idea of ever having sex with a man again acutally does make me cringe. Men are wonderful, I just don’t want them on top of me. giggle

]]> by: MLC Mid-Life Clarity http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-92 Wed, 23 Jan 2008 13:33:39 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-92 TAG. Tag, tag, tag, tag! Darlin' you're an "IT GIRL". Mid-Life Clarity TAG. Tag, tag, tag, tag!

Darlin’ you’re an “IT GIRL”.

Mid-Life Clarity

]]> by: jlb http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-90 Tue, 22 Jan 2008 05:34:29 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-90 hmmm...just found your blog and thought i'd say hi (rather than lurk in the shadows)... from yet another "rsg" j. hmmm…just found your blog and thought i’d say hi (rather than lurk in the shadows)…
from yet another “rsg”
j.

]]> by: MLC Mid-Life Clarity http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-88 Tue, 22 Jan 2008 03:39:42 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-88 13. You find yourself on the sofa, with several dogs, you are eating hummus, watching Siren on American Gladiator (all that delicious lycra) and wearing birkenstocks. OK JUST FOR THE RECORD... I am not wearing birkenstocks and I do have my MAC cosmetics Viva Glam gloss on. And I do, I do - recognize the 12 steps. The last man I dated I recall thinking "if he touches me I will be physically ill". MLC 13. You find yourself on the sofa, with several dogs, you are eating hummus, watching Siren on American Gladiator (all that delicious lycra) and wearing birkenstocks.

OK JUST FOR THE RECORD… I am not wearing birkenstocks and I do have my MAC cosmetics Viva Glam gloss on. And I do, I do - recognize the 12 steps. The last man I dated I recall thinking “if he touches me I will be physically ill”.

MLC

]]> by: Eshne http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-87 Mon, 21 Jan 2008 20:20:12 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-87 Hee hee that's funny, especially number 11. I'm so rubbish with the whole gaydar thing! How do you fine-tune it? I can never work out if a femme-girl is gay. Maybe you could write a post on it and invite advice :) Hee hee that’s funny, especially number 11. I’m so rubbish with the whole gaydar thing! How do you fine-tune it? I can never work out if a femme-girl is gay. Maybe you could write a post on it and invite advice :)

]]> by: GG http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-86 Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:51:48 +0000 http://awakenings.blogsome.com/2008/01/21/the-12-steps/#comment-86 Hey, Jen...don't you love these 12 steps?? Honestly, I was doing so many of them (music, checking out women, etc.) for so long (since college), that when I finally came out to old friends at my last college reunion (in 2004), each of them were like, "You mean you haven't come out till NOW??" What does THAT tell you?!?!? Happy Monday, GG Hey, Jen…don’t you love these 12 steps?? Honestly, I was doing so many of them (music, checking out women, etc.) for so long (since college), that when I finally came out to old friends at my last college reunion (in 2004), each of them were like, “You mean you haven’t come out till NOW??” What does THAT tell you?!?!?

Happy Monday,

GG

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